You’ve got the basics. Now, let’s put them into action—and you that much closer to it. First, we’ll review the rules, and then we will show you how to lead the women you want to bed. Because we know you’re male and filled with testosterone, we will then show you all the best ways to know when a woman is interested in you (because sad as it may be, most of the time you completely miss the clues she is sending your way!) and finally, help you pick the right approach to use. Ready? Let the games begin.

Always and Never

Yeah, we know, MORE rules. It sucks but these are important ones so shut up and listen. There are some pretty black and white rules here, otherwise known as “always” and “nevers”.

ALWAYS

ALWAYS Pursue more than one woman: otherwise you will become obsessed with her and dependent upon her for your self-esteem, sex and everything else. You will be less patient with other women you meet and there is always another woman waiting for you. Unless you are literally out there playing the field in search of a wife, date multiple people.  Even in that case, you should consider dating multiple people to ensure you’ve made the right choice for a wife!

ALWAYS Initiate every step of the encounter: this ensures the fact that you keep the power and proves your worth to her. This includes every phase from the initial eye contact to asking for a phone number to calling to the first kiss and even to the first one to initiate breaking up.

ALWAYS Have a goal or outcome in mind: do not initiate any action without coming up with a goal first, whether it is talking to 10 women to getting the first kiss.

ALWAYS Remember YOU are the prize, not the girl: it is essential that you have this attitude to maintain your self-esteem and confidence.  Women want a man who has value.

ALWAYS Keep in mind that women are sending signals to you all the time: even if you are not picking up on them, learn what they are and then use the information wisely.

ALWAYS Talk to a woman the moment you see her: there’s an adage that says “he who hesitates, masturbates”. Talking to a woman right away forces yourself past any doubts and demonstrates your confidence.

NEVER

NEVER Take it personally: if you are rejected, it is because of who she is, not who you are. She might be married, she might be a lesbian, she might just not like men—remember, her issues are not about you but about what is happening in her life.

NEVER Say “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”: This is an automatic turn off for women; they want a decisive man who is knowledgeable, can make plans and be creative. All it takes is one “I don’t know” to lose her interest and have her move on to someone else. Instead, tell her a story about this great place you know that is so____ (fill in the blank).  Women love to uncover new things and be the first to know about them.

NEVER Give up: persistence is the key to success and without it, you might as well stay home and watch the game by yourself.

NEVER Lie: It’s wrong, you will get caught, it makes you look weak and it gives her unspoken permission to lie right back to you.

NEVER Talk about: her old boyfriends or your past girlfriends, also avoid politics (too serious), too much personal information about yourself or fishing for compliments.

NEVER Wait for a “good time” to approach a woman: there is no better time than now. The worse thing you can do is to get caught up analyzing whether and when you should take to a woman. Your lack of confidence will show on the outside and you’ll miss an opportunity to talk to her that may not arise again.

Have you even used probabilities to study baseball scores? You can do it with dating statistics too. Just remember this formula:

The more women you come in contact with, the more you will get to talk to.
The more you get to talk to, the more that will give you their phone numbers.

The more phone numbers you get, the more dates you will have.

The more dates you have, the more sex you will get.

Simple, huh?

Places With Women

The rules are clear, but they are rather pointless if you don’t know any women to apply them to. So, let’s find these sexy women, shall we?

Here are the most typical places to find women. There are definite advantages to them: there are more women there and many of these women are single and looking to meet someone, plus the environment is often designed for flirting and hitting on each other—hence the loud music, dancing and abundant amounts of alcohol. On the other hand, there is a great deal more competition to contend with in these places—plus before you walk up, women have probably heard dozens of pick up lines and are getting sick of them. You need to shine there through what you learn here.

Single’s bars: The women you see here are hoping to meet someone (that’s why they are here!), so why disappoint them? Remember that they have heard it all so you simply have to find a way to be more original. Use the approach that you are the most comfortable and familiar with so that you won’t stumble or get lost. If the woman doesn’t respond, happens to be married or with her boyfriend or is rude, move on. There are many to choose from so don’t waste your time on one who doesn’t recognize what a prize she has in front of her.

Bars/Nightclubs: Women come here for two main reasons: to relax and to drink. What a perfect combination for you to move in and take advantage of. Again, you are up against dozens of other men hoping to get the same booty you are, so do your best approach and have the right attitude in place.

Restaurants: Do you know what the best thing about restaurants is? If you guessed juicy steaks, think again. If you think it’s the classy female clientele, you are closer. You can pick up some great looking broads at good restaurants. However, you’re still missing out on the main thing these places offer. The best thing about restaurants—is the waitresses. Often they are better looking than any of the customers in the place and since you know they will be sticking around until their shift ends, you can keep running approaches on them each time you stop in.

Coffee shops: These places have become so popular that they are like the high energy form of night clubs. They also often have single women sitting at tables, sipping on lattes, reading books, working on laptops and waiting to meet you.

Gyms: The perks here are obvious—tight asses, perky boobs, long legs and skimpy workout clothes. If you like your women healthy and fit, this is the place to go.

Cruise ships: If you go on a single’s cruise, you will be surrounded by lots of single women (yeah) but also lots of single men (crap). Eliminate the competition by having the strongest attitude, the most effective approach and the perfect opening line.

Here are some of the places where there may be far less women but a higher proportion of them, so they are also probably more open to your attention:

Yoga classes: Not only will you learn to relax and stretch, but you will meet flexible women who are thrilled to actually see a man in class – it demonstrates part of your good characteristics. Act like you aren’t sure how to move, and chances are you will have several women helping you and that has to be good.

Spin classes: Women are attracted to spin classes because often the instructors are male and have that “biker-body”; think Lance Armstrong, not Hell’s Angels. Women also love spinning because it shapes their thighs and ass – something you will love too!

Rock Climbing: Believe it or not, rock climbing gyms are a great to meet women. The women here are typically outdoors types that love a challenge and are more aggressive than the women you usually meet.

Ballet, Opera, Theatre, etc: This is an out-of-the box place to meet women and a challenging on at that but these venues are literally filled with women. Remember that women love stories, romance, and passion and these venues give women exactly that. It takes a lot of courage to go to one of these but just imagine what a woman who’s just seen a romantic tragedy is feeling and what she’ll feel when you approach her and sweep her off her feet.

Movie theatres: Yet another out-of-the box place to meet women but just like the theatre, women flock to movie theatres because they love stories. If you can’t do ballet do a movie – where else do you get a chance to sit beside and share an experience with a woman for 2 hours? And often, women go to the movies with their girls – bonus.

Bookstores: Smart women are fun... be sure and check out the erotica section first and see if any good-looking women are hanging out there. Just think of the great conversations you might initiate there. Otherwise, check out the coffee shop. See what the babe in the corner is reading and get ready to approach.

Supermarkets: Put on your best “I’m helpless” look and hit the produce aisle. Ask her how to tell when fruit is ripe or whether to get a butternut or acorn squash. She will love the opportunity to show you some tits—we mean tips.

Cooking classes: Many women either enjoy cooking or want to learn how to do it better and so the vast majority of cooking classes are filled with women. A male student would certainly be the center of attention and if you appear a little confused and behind in class, tutoring sessions can turn into some extra delight. A branch off of this is finding women in the cooking utensil section of large department stores. Be clueless about whisks and spatulas and watch how those previously aloof women suddenly swarm all over you to help you out.

Church: Churches are one of the best places to meet women because they often focus on single’s events like dances, picnics, parties, and so on. Of course, you will have to tailor your approaches for the environment—the Grand Master would not do well at all in a church setting. And don’t forget the more women have been exposed (read: repressed) by religion their whole life, the hornier they become!

Renaissance fairs and festivals: The women walking around these kinds of events tend to be New Agey, open minded, laid back—and even eager to be laid. Take advantage of the good vibes.

Outdoor music events: Is anything more romantic than music under the stars? Avoid gospel or hard rock concerts and try to focus on blues, jazz, New Age or soft rock for the best ambiance. Any woman sitting alone on a blanket rocking to the music is ripe for the picking so get over there and get in position to enjoy the harvest.

Dance classes: A year or so ago there was a great commercial on TV about a bunch of guys giving their buddy a hard time because he was taking ballet classes. They stopped laughing at him, however, when they spied him through the classroom door and he was holding ballet dancers in some very personal and provocative places and grinning. Dance classes are great places to meet women and almost all of them are fascinated and attracted to men who can dance—or at least are doing their best to learn how to dance. While ballet may not be your cup of tea, ballroom or salsa dancing is often a terrific choice. Not only will you meet women, you will learn how to dance—another turn on for women that you meet later. Bring back that slightly helpless mask and you’re sure to get some up close and personal tutoring that could easily shift from dance floor to bedroom.

Hotel bars: Often nothing is lonelier than a woman traveling on business. She doesn’t know the city, she doesn’t know any people, she misses home and she is working. All of that can combine to be pretty damn depressing and you can be the one to cheer up her day—and night.

Lectures and workshops: If you can get a little education and meet this weeks’ sex partner at the same time, why not do it? Check out local lectures, conferences and workshops and see what you can learn and who you can meet. One of the ultimate places for meeting women is personal growth seminars. They are there because they are ready for change—and that can manifest itself in you.

Parties: As you mingle and mix at the party you have been invited to, check out what women have been invited as well. If they are there, they are most likely looking for someone to hook up with just like you.

Volunteer organizations: Women often want to find ways to share their time and efforts with others and for some, they find this through volunteering. If you join too, you can help your community (we know, this may not be remotely important to you) and meet women who see you as compassionate, caring, responsible and hot.

Open Mic events: One of the newer trends is to go to a local coffee house on certain nights for what is known as open mic. Anyone who wants to can attend and read a poem, sing a song, play guitar or piano, etc. up on stage. You can really get a woman hot by being creative and emotional—reading a dramatic poem or singing a love song can get you closer to a woman than even the best opening line.

Workplace: You read right, your place of work. Though they often say, “don’t shit in your own backyard” this is one of the best places to meet women.  Think about it. Where else do you already have tons in common with women who work at the same company that you do?  And chances are, the women there are already probably bored out of their minds at work, so dying to talk to someone – make that someone you!

Gimmicks...

Don’t be afraid to use special gimmicks to get a woman’s attention. Here are few of the best:

Dogs: A cute dog—or even better, a puppy—can be one of the biggest chick magnets on the planet. Walk around with one on a leash and just watch the women come running with their ooh’s and aah’s. Hang out at a dog park and start asking the hot babe with the canine innocent questions like what is the best food to give puppies, how do you housebreak a dog and more. Failing that, carry around some dog treats and give them to dogs with hot women owners as they walk by. If the woman asks, why you are carrying around dog treats, just say you just came back from a friend’s house where you were visiting their dog.

Babies: Even better than dogs are babies—they will get more attention than you may know what to do with. Obviously you can’t just find a baby at the pet store but you might have a friend who has a young son or daughter who wouldn’t mind if you took the baby for a walk. You might have a niece or nephew too. Act helpless one more time and women will quite likely beat their way to get to you.

Magic tricks: Sounds silly, we know, but knowing some basic magic tricks can be a great ice breaker with women. It gives you something to do and say when you walk up to a good looking woman and most women like to be entertained.

Handwriting analysis: Learn just enough about this subject to sound knowledgeable and then ask her to write down her name and phone number (of course!) on a napkin so you can analyze it. Make sure your analysis is partially accurate and partially very complimentary. All of your predictions should be positive and you might even include one about meeting a good looking man who is destined to bring her great sex and fun times.

Something corny: Walk around in public carrying a four foot tall teddy bear. Hold a dozen balloons or three dozen carnations. Tote a giant heart full of chocolate candy. You are bound to get attention—including from women who are often attracted to flowers, balloons, stuffed animals and so on. They ask what is going on—and the conversation begins.

Another way to make sure you find women that you will have at least a few things in common with is to look for women in the places you are interested in, i.e. if you like to work out, look at the gym; if you are a vegetarian, look at the health food store; if you are fascinated by art, look at the museums and so on.

Approaching Women

When you first think about walking up to a woman, you most likely see yourself walking into a bar and approaching that beautiful single babe at the bar. Those moments do exist, but they can be hard to find. Most of the time, you will encounter women in a mixture of ways, from single, doubles, triples or groups to those that are moving, walking or sitting. Each type of setting requires a slightly different approach.

While we will talk a great deal about the girl sitting alone or the group over in the corner, let’s take a special look at the walking set—the woman/women/group that is going by you. Don’t let the chance and the babe go by!

Here is how you deal with the moving set. First, never let it look like you are chasing them. This lowers your value and thus your attraction. Here is one way to open this particular set:

1. Maneuver so that you are walking along in the same general direction but you are just slightly ahead.  
   
   
2. Turn your head back toward the group and use one of the many openers provided in this book. It can be an opinion, a question or the very first line of a story.
   
   
3. Turn forward again and look ahead. Most of the time, the group will have hurried to catch up with you and now you just launch right into the group sets taught throughout this website.

Here are some of the other sets you will run into and how to handle them:

The woman sitting alone:

It’s a dream come true, so don’t screw it up! 

Approach her directly if you can. Look in her eyes when you get to her and smile.    

If you spot her from across the room or down the aisle or on the other side of the coffee shop, look at her until she notices, make eye contact and then immediately walk over to her. Don’t stop to order your latte or your beer or you’ve lost your best chance. Some experts call this the “three second rule” which means you have about three seconds to get over there and connect.  It demonstrates confidence, a touch of romance, and that you are truly attracted to that woman.

Walk up, lead with a curious statement or opener, establish contact and then use those false time constraints you will learn about.    

Do not circle her. Do not stalk her. Just go up to her spontaneously (women love spontaneity!) and with enthusiasm.

When she has a girl friend with her:

Her friend may be the greatest gal on the planet but right now she is an obstacle to you. She is getting between you and your goal.            

You have to win over the friend before you can win over the woman. Don’t make eye contact with your target. If she starts to talk, just neg her (explained in later chapters) and turn your focus back to the obstacle.  

Hand your target something of yours if you can to make sure she doesn’t wander away. It can be your hat, a book you’re reading—something.    

Keep negging your target for about five minutes and pretty soon, she will be working harder to grab your attention. Once she does this, apologetically ask the obstacle if you can talk to her friend for a while. She will be on your side now and instead of an obstacle, she is your ally.

Now you can throw a compliment your target’s way (avoid it being about her looks).

When your target has two friends—or more:

• This follows the same basic pattern as above only you have two obstacles to charm now. Once they like you, they will be happy to let you go off alone with their friend. In fact, they may even walk away and give you your long waited for privacy.
  
  
• Use some great isolating lines like, “I would love to spend a little time with your friend—is that okay with you ladies?” or “Do you think we could just have a few minutes to talk? I have to leave in just a sec and I’d love the chance to be alone for a moment.”

When the target is with a boyfriend:

• Don’t just take a look, assume the two are madly in love and you don’t stand a chance so you walk away. Walk up. Talk to the man—not the target. He may be your target’s brother, co-worker, best friend or cousin from out of town.            
  
  
• Ask how the two of them know each other. This answers the question right away of what their relationship is. If he does happen to be her boyfriend, you have a new friend and you haven’t offended anyone. He could even act as your wingman and the girl your wing woman for the rest of the night (we’ll explain these concepts later).
  
  
• If she happens to be with more than one guy, do the same thing only make new friends with each of them in order to figure out the relationships in the group.

Mental Preparation

You are almost ready to approach, whether your future sex partner is alone or with friends, moving or sitting. Do you have the right attitude though?  Go through a mental checklist before you take a single step. Memorize it so you know what to cover without having to pull a list out of your pocket.

Am I smiling or laughing so it looks like I am having a good time already?
Is my body language letting others know how self-confident I am?
If I stand with a group, am I making it clear that I am the center of attention?

Do I already have some women around me to increase my value? Am I clearly enjoying myself with them but not showing any intentions of picking any of them up? Am I showing others that I am a social creature and not one out on the hunt for prey?

Now, approach her. Remember that three second rule. Be confident and make sure that your opener is loud and attention getting. Project your voice so not only does she hear you, but those around you can’t miss you either.

Feeling scared yet? Naturally you are. This is all new and it goes against a lot of what you have been taught by others in the past.  Writers of Magic Bullets called this particular feeling “approach anxiety”.  Banish any thoughts of overcoming this fear by throwing back a few extra shots. Alcohol does not make you more creative, charming, sexy or articulate. It does just the opposite. Probably one of the best things you can do at a bar/club is not to drink. It puts you at an advantage over all the other guys in the place who are drunk, slurring their speech, and making poor judgment calls when approaching women.

Remember—and we will keep repeating this from beginning to end—rejection is NOT a bad thing. Women might reject your opener. They might reject your approach. They are not rejecting you. In the meantime, you are learning at supersonic speeds what works and what doesn’t. Just keep practicing and you WILL get better. You WILL get accepted. And yes, you WILL get laid.

Being Playful

Women like to laugh and have fun, so sometimes having a few games handy to try can be helpful. For example, you might tell her that you bet her a dollar that you can kiss her without moving your lips or tongue. (Clearly this is to be used after you know the girl well, not right when you are meeting and getting to know each other.) Lean in closely, close your eyes and give her the best kiss of her life. When you’re done, you will have lost the bet but won the girl.

Another game to play is the old-fashioned Truth or Dare. Of course, the adult version is far less inhibited and wilder than the teen version. If you are going to try this game, plan it out ahead of time so that you have the basic equipment you will need.  Have condoms, whipped cream, bananas, chocolate sauce, and more. (Is your imagination working overtime now? It should be.)

Here are a couple other games you can try. The first one is a little like I Spy but instead it is I Like… You want to say something you like that will become the basis for further conversation. Some examples include:     

• Hearing my favorite song right when I am stuck in a traffic jam.
• Showers that are so warm I am immediately covered in goose bumps.
• The feel of clean sheets when I slide into bed at night.
• The previews that come on before a brand new movie.
• Getting a phone call from someone I haven’t heard from in years.
• Coming across an old letter that I had forgotten all about.
• The butterflies I get in my stomach when I talk to a beautiful woman. 

Another possibility is the Question game, a form of Truth or Dare but without the dare element. Start with simple questions but not boring ones. Ask “What was the best concert she ever went to” or “her favorite cartoon when she was a kid.” Slowly work your way into more personal questions like “What was your first kiss like” or “What is your best childhood memory?” If all is going well, you can slowly work your way into more actually based questions like “Where is the most romantic place you’ve ever had sex” or “If you could only be kissed in one spot, where would it be?” Remember to be on guard—she will be asking you questions right back so answer wisely, but remember, be mysterious by only answering the question and offering nothing else.

A spin off of this one is a finish the sentence game. You start a sentence and she finishes it for you. I really like it when .  . , The best way to spend a weekend is . . . and so on. Like before, you can escalate the questions to sexual ones if you have rapport with her and she is enjoying the game.

Identifying the Signs

All this time, you’ve probably been thinking that you are doing all the seduction work. It all falls on your shoulders to find the babes, approach them and try to win them. Wake up, man! These women are sending you signs left and right that say, “Approach me! Talk to me! I find you attractive . . . come and see me!” and yet you are completely missing them. That’s right—signals are being sent your way and your antenna is missing each and every one.  Smack yourself in the forehead. You deserve it, schmuck.

First of all, we hope that by now you have already accepted the fact that chick’s minds are hardwired much differently than ours. They see the world and the people in it in a completely alien perspective—but it is one we have to tune in on or we will miss out on a lot of potential sex partners.

Women are all about hints and subtlety. We know that’s not how you work. Hell, if you could, you’d probably just wanna walk up to the hottest chick in the room and forget the lines, the stories, the openers and say, “Let’s fuck, now.” You’re direct and to the point but you’d also go home alone because that isn’t how women communicate. Learn her signals and you can get to the fucking that much sooner.

When a man walks into a room, whether it’s the weekly PTA meeting or the busiest nightclub, women check him out. You can relate to that. When a woman walks into view, you usually check out her tits, her ass—and occasionally the things in between. Women do that same once-over but they are looking for a lot more than just how a guy looks. (Refer back to the introduction if you need clarification on this.) She checks out clothing, accessories, posture, height, attitude, facial expressions and a lot more.  In a matter of seconds she knows if she is interested in meeting you and she starts to send signals to you. She will keep sending these signals from your first minute through the door through any conversation you might have and beyond. Some of them are conscious—she knows she is sending a come on over here, big boy message. Others she probably has no idea she does but that doesn’t mean you should be oblivious to them too.

Learn these signals and then head out to the closest single’s bar. Sit back and watch the women there and see how many of these very moves you can catch. Don’t attempt to hit on anyone this time—just watch and observe. Once you are familiar with the signals, you will probably know whether a guy has a chance with a woman long before he does. Here are the most common signals a woman sends throughout your interaction with her:

Part of the body: MOUTH
Gesture/Signal

• Relaxed smile
  
• Bites lower lip
  
• Shows tip of tongue
  
• Licks lips
  
• Puts her fingernail between her teeth
  
• Pouts with her lips
  
• Blows smoke at you
  
• Puts something in her mouth, i.e.
  
• swizzle stick, finger, etc.

Part of the body: EYES
Gesture/Signal

• Sneaks peeks at you when you aren’t looking
  
• Plays a game of peek-a-boo—looking at you and then looking down and away
  
• Gives you side looks
  
• Holds eye contact with you
  
• Pupils are dilated
  
• Raises and lowers her eyebrows
  
• Winks at you
  
• Blinks more often than usual
  
• Looks directly at your eyes and face

Part of the body: HAIR
Gesture/Signal

• Plays with her hair, i.e. twists it or twirls it around her fingers
  
• Throws it off her shoulders
  
• Runs her hand through it
  
• Lifts it off of her neck

Part of the body: CLOTHING
Gesture/Signal

• Raises the hem of her skirt or dress to show more leg
  
• Lets it fall off her shoulder
  
• Open buttons or lowers zippers
  
• Nipples show through shirt (don’t stare!)

Part of the body: VOICE
Gesture/Signal

• The volume of her voices raises and lowers to mirror yours
  
• The speed of her talking speeds up and slows down to mirror yours
  
• She laughs at your jokes
  
• She speaks only to you and not to other men
  
• She compliments you
  
• Argues with you with a smile on her face
  
• Asks you to repeat something if she didn’t hear it
  
• Giggles

Part of the body: VOICE
Gesture/Signal

• Moves with you
• Sits up straight
  
• Legs open
  
• Legs rub against each other or against the table leg
  
• Mirrors your body language
  
• Blushes
  
• Pushes her hips forward
  
• Cocks head to one side as she listens to you
  
• Bares neck and underarms
  
• Goes to the bathroom and comes back after primping
  
• Leans towards you as you talk
  
• Waits for you if you leave to go to the restroom
  
• Wants to know where you are going if you leave
  
• Lets you know she is getting ready to leave
  
• Does not move back when you move forward
  
• Poses for you (wants to look her best for when you glance her way)
  

Selecting the Best Way to Approach Women

You know the rules, found the women and read her signals. Now it’s time for the real moment—the approach. You’ve already read a great deal about what to say as you walk up to a woman but here is more to absorb.

You have approximately 30 seconds to impress this woman and keep her positive body signals positive. That isn’t much time so make the most of it.  Think of yourself like a stand-up comedian or a newspaper journalist. You had better grab a person’s attention right away or they will have gone right over it to the next story, comedian—or man. Here are some of the most common ways to open up a conversation. Even though you should memorize them, try your best to sound completely spontaneous. Take the samples here and rework them to make them your own. Questions are great openers because they automatically create a need to respond in the woman (unless she is being a bitch). Stay far away from negative topics like politics, national tragedies and so on. They certainly won’t lighten the mood and can create friction—but not the right kind.